· The Olympics
· Not enough babies to fill needs
· Increase in domestic adoptions
· Too few internationally approved SWIs
· Swine Flu
· New policy changes for adopting parents
· Large numbers of waiting dossiers
· Not enough workers at CC@@
· New Director
These are just a few of the possible reasons that have floated around in the adoption community over the last several years as to why it is taking so long for referrals. I am sure there are more reasons out there that I have forgotten.
Today we can add a new ‘reason’ to the list. There is a new director at CC@@ and he is unable to sign off on anything until the transitions are made. Needless to say there will be no referrals for the month of November.
Over the last few years I have tried to be very careful with what I post in regards to our wait. I have not wanted to ‘upset the apple cart’ while we are waiting, but good Lord! How much are we supposed to take? How long do I continue to bury my head and take it while our lives are on hold? EVERY time I start to feel that things are moving forward I get slapped back down, and it seems slapped down harder each time. Why don’t they understand that they are dealing with peoples’ lives? How long must we sit on the sidelines waiting to get in the game? Why are we always watching from a distance with a smile on our face, as we continue to wait.
This emotional roller coaster is Hell. It is torture. Just a few months ago we thought we had a chance at a December referral, January at the latest. Now we have this rumor that there will not be any referrals for November. This is the second month CC@@ has skipped in the last three months. No explanation, no concerns for others, just suck it up and deal with it.
Of course that’s is what I’ll do, again. I’ll suck it up and wait because:
· it will happen when it’s supposed to happen
· it won’t be that much longer
· everything happens for a reason
· be patient a little while longer
· I can’t stress about what I can’t change.
If you think I am being sarcastic here, you’re right! I am so sick and tired of hearing these phrases. I understand people don’t know what to say. Hell, I don’t know what to say to others. I feel horrible for the people who are closer than we are. It is even worse for them.
Today the tears are flowing and I’m pissed. Tomorrow will be a new day and life in waiting will continue.